We’ve all been to hundreds of weddings, or at least seen that many in movies, and the order of things is usually pretty consistent. Father walks bride down the aisle. Bride wears an Ivory dress. Bride and Groom share first dance. Cake is cut. So many things happen at weddings that we are just accustomed to. But how many of these things are actually necessary in order to have your idea of the perfect wedding?
Well, the truth is you actually don’t need any of these traditions. The great thing about your wedding is that it’s YOURS! Fortunately, what you do or don’t do at your wedding is totally up to you. While you may want to keep traditions that are important to your family, there’s no reason to keep the ones that don’t bear any real significance. So to help weed out some of the pomp and circumstance, here are five traditions that you can get down the aisle and through the reception without.
1. Having your father walk you down the aisle. Let’s face it, not everyone’s father is available to walk them down the aisle. For various reasons, it’s not always practical to have your father walk you down the aisle. If this rings true for you, why not focus on the next man or woman in your life who has contributed a lot to the person you’ve become. Whether it’s a grandparent, godparent, sibling or even your child, have the person who’s giving you away be one who has given you so much already.
2. Wearing a white or ivory dress. White and ivory dresses are classic and timeless, but who’s to say a champagne or even a soft pink dress can’t render the same results. If your traditions are rooted in religion and it’s important for you to observe them, it may be more suitable for you to stick to the classic white dress. However, designers today have truly perfected the art of maintaining all the bridal elements of a wedding dress while using subtle color to give it a modern flare. If you are more open to exploring the roads less traveled and have no reasons to stay the traditional course, go for it!
3.Having a giant wedding cake. This tradition is expendable for two reasons. One, cakes can be really pricey and often end up going to waste when all the pretty women in pretty dresses try to avoid the giant slices. Two, there are so many other options that are just as tasty and are sure to be gone by the end of your reception. Try a cupcake tower or macaroons. We love Hummingbird Macarons and Deserts, a preferred vendor of The Bridal Dish by House of Maya. When properly displayed, these tasty treats look just as heavenly as a towering cake, and you can always top your tower with a small cake for two. That way you still have a place for toppers and you don’t have to miss out on the cake cutting… or smashing.
4. Creating a seating chart. Honestly, who needs the headache? In most cases, people will want to sit next to someone that you may not have put them anywhere close to. And then do you know what happens to all your hard work? *insert flushing sound here* The best thing about skipping this is the time you can save or devote to more pertinent details, like making sure your groomsmen get measured sooner than the week of the wedding… because they will wait.
5. Having a plated dinner. A lot of time in wedding planning is spent trying to think of ways to accommodate others. Unfortunately, this type of accommodation can sometimes put a huge dent in your wallet. Deciding on what people will eat is a large part of your planning but it shouldn’t be something that causes stress. Sure, you want to make sure they talk about the food and only say good things but you also want to make sure you don’t go crazy trying to make sure Uncle Pete gets Swordfish and Little Jimmy gets Pizza. Try a buffet. It takes the pressure out of planning your reception meal and most caterers will often include enough options in your package to please just about everyone, even if they just end up eating a salad. We have an abundance of great catering companies available through our planning studio. The Bridal Dish by House of Maya. Check them out here.
So there you have it. These are just a few things you can eliminate from your wedding or reception and the good thing about all of these is that most of them double as money savers. If these are traditions that you couldn’t imagine letting go but you want to take a few tasks off your wedding planning to-do list, sit down and make a list of everything you still have to do. Think about whether letting these things go would make or break your celebration. If a particular tradition or task doesn’t really matter to you, let it go or find an alternative so you can prioritize the things you need in order to make your day super special. Happy Planning!
Shaunté Williams is a Philadelphia native, who put down roots in Virginia Beach after serving six years in the United States Navy. She began to find love in all things creative at an early age, when she was introduced to music and art. She attended the Philadelphia High School for Girls where she was greatly involved in the arts program and later attended the Art Institute of Virginia Beach and was introduced to creative writing and fashion. Shaunté is a wife and mother of three and is proud to be surrounded by a family full of creative spirits like hers. She is elated to be a part of Team Maya and looks forward to a lifelong career with the House of Maya Family.